Question
Whats wrong with men?
Seriously. Why are so many of them so insensitive? Is it the testosterone? Is it that they just dont have the same emotional capacity as women or is it because theyre socialized to stifle or deny their feelings?
Answer
The thing that you are missing is that men are afraid. It is scary to see your self as having to live up to the western male ideal.brbrOur society has set up illogical levels of perfection for both men and women that are unrealistic and dysfunctional.brbrYou know how the magazine covers or the adds on tv set up an impossible air brushed ideal for women that cause young girls who are already perfect in their own way to starve themselves to death, or seek expensive and painful surgery to correct their socalled quotflawsquot.brbrMen too have to deal with these types of nonsensical expectations. They are different from the ones women are faced with but they are no less scary and cause men to avoid the feminine or emotional aspect of their nature.brbrIt is interesting to me that this term feminine aspect is even used. It is as though no real man would even have such a thing as an emotional side. Men struggle with these things just like women do but in different ways that are not always aparent to someone of another gender.brbrJust try to love them, even if you dont want to get that close to some of them. We are all here learning and trying to do our best. Guys are admitidly a lot slower at emotional maturation than women are. Just try to think of them as works in progress. brbrI might suggest that you look for an older guy who might be a lot closer to your level of emotional maturity. There are some really great ones out there.brbrCheer up Amp, tomorrow is a new day.brbrLove and blessings Don
